You are just being self conscious for no good reason, stop being so and enjoy the moments.

You are just being self conscious for no good reason, stop being so and enjoy the moments.

While your advice is sound, you come off as bluntly judgemental (not only here, but on dharma's most recent article as well).


I just spent some time with my sons at the pool and met a woman who was spending time with her three kids, trying to figure out when (if?) their father was going to pick them up for the summer. I just can't understand how someone wouldn't want to spend time with their kids. I just don't get it.

Unfortunately, I read somewhere that half of divorced dad's haven't seen their kids in the last year. I would guess that it's even higher for military divorced dads but I don't know that for a fact. It is so sad for the kids and someday the dads will figure out what they missed out on.

That is one of the reasons I stayed in my marriage, I just wanted better for my boys. I know there are exceptions but in most second marriages, it seems like the kids get the shaft. I know that isn't true in every case but in so many that I see it is. I guess a lot of dads just don't want to deal with the ex even if that means they don't see their kids anymore. Really it doesn't seem like you see a dad out with their kids by themselves as much as you see moms out with the kids and no dad.

Enjoy the time you do have with them. I think you are a great dad and they are lucky to have you even if it isn't every day.

I have to say that as a home daycare provider I always seem to be more impressed with an involved, hands-on dad. I guess we just expect it from the moms and don't think twice about it. There have been kids that I have cared for for over a year and I never even met the dad and these were intact families that the dad was at home, he just never brought them to care or picked them up. Apparently, that's usually mom's job. It's just sad that they don't even care to meet the person that their kid is spending a huge chunk of their lives with.

well then kiss my oh so sexy blunt ass It aint gonna change for you.

well then kiss my oh so sexy blunt ass

Whatever.  Not shy about tooting your own horn, are you?

 

Miah, it's not uncommon at all.  One of my best friends at our last base was a single dad of 2, and I know of another three dads who have their children living with them at least 75% of the time. 

I think that people are suprised by your enthisiasm.  You actually give a rat's ass about you boys and truly enjoy being with them, and that takes people aback, I think.  I personally think it's admirable and should be the standard for other dads to follow. 

I'm very proud of you, 'miah.  You're awesome.

It aint gonna change for you.

Then I have no qualms in telling you to FOAD.

Translates "Fuck off and die" ..how nice! I am not ready to die asshat. It is about time you learnt some manners and tolerance of people around you. You are humorless and deserve what comes your way.

vos es stultus quod a canis

Unfriendly fuckers are'nt you?

Not shy no, when trying to be friendly on an article that is on a public domain.

Your response and that of Pseudosoldier's are just plain mean and intolerant. There was not one nasty word in my words to the man, and there was humor there too. You are both unfriendly, intolerant pigs.

I will certainly not be paying my respects on your posts again. Eat shit both of you then sit on the finger and spin! I hope it hurts bad.

It is about time you learnt some manners and tolerance of people around you.

I pointed out that your initial reaction was judgemental; you responded that you weren't about to change for me, even though you had told me to change my behavior. I told you off and attempted to blacklist you (which seems not to work under the forums). If you don't return I believe I'll be better off, yes.

Reading this, nothings changed on site then? Heads still bang together? hahahahaha

It is nice to see a dad taking an interest in his kids. My kids dad never wanted a thing to do with her and refused to acknowledge her existence a real sob. She is 20 now and has met him for all of 5 minutes, with no further contact.

It is nice to see a dad taking an interest in his kids. My kids dad never wanted a thing to do with her and refused to acknowledge her existence a real sob. She is 20 now and has met him for all of 5 minutes, with no further contact.

I feel sad when I read this, not only for your daughter but for her father as well. I'm sure you have done (and continue to do) everything you can to get her to know that she's loved regardless of his lack of involvement, and there's certainly nothing you could do to make him want to be involved. It's unfortunte in my view, because I can't help but feel that two involved, loving parents has got to be better than one.

Without a doubt this is so.

sorry, late coming to this apparently, but to address the original post....

from the experiences I had working in the schools back in Texas, and even with the kids I worked with at church, the kids whose parents were divorced or separated generally did not spend alot of time with their fathers. I agree that they are missing out, and their children are definately missing out. You however, are an exceptional example of what a parent should be regardless of the situation they find themselves in.