Shortened Visit

Published on July 14, 2006 By pseudosoldier In Parenting

Going home was... nice? But awkward.

And if there's any doubt that I'm thinking of myself more than my kids: I returned them to their mother three days early so they could spend a day visiting their uncle (her brother) and his family. At SeaWorld.

I would've been within my legal rights to say, "No." I would've also been a selfish prick.

Comments

Tova7

on Jul 14, 2006

I'm sure your kids enjoyed seeing you.

My boys would rather be with their dad than anywhere else on the planet. (I say on the planet because my youngest would probably forgo Daddy time for a trip to the moon which he is so enamored of.hahahaha)

Glad you got to visit them.

MasonM

on Jul 14, 2006

I would've been within my legal rights to say, "No." I would've also been a selfish prick.

You thought of your kids ahead of yourself. That's a good dad.

feisty_in_ohio

on Jul 15, 2006

Hoorah to you for think of your kids!

My parents were divorced (back when you didn't get divored). Inspite of their differences, we were their children.

We were not held to a court schedule. We called & saw our Dad when we wanted to - sometimes every weekend.

My parents didn't speak badly of each other.

Mom gave good advise: "he is your father - he loves you - listen to your father."

Dad gave good advise too! Say yes sir and no sir, ask the policeofficer for a warning and accept the ticket without griping, and "listen to your mother."

We loved our Dad & miss him (we're all adults now).

Trudygolightly

on Jul 18, 2006

It's so good to read of a dad putting his kids before his own desires and needs. I don't know the ages of your children, however if they're old enough they're aware of the awkwardness and also know you did something good for them.

That was really a good thing you did.

Locamama

on Jul 18, 2006

It's so nice to see someone who can look out for the best interests of their children without court intervention. I hope you enjoyed your time together in spite of the awkwardness. Keep it up. I'm proud of you for continuing to take an active role. I've seen so many men check out of the parenting after the divorce. I know it's not easy but those kids of yours are totally worth it, but you already know that.

I am in the middle of a mess with one of my daycare families and I see such a change in the little girl. I just want to shake the parents but what do you do? I just try to give her some extra love and attention while she is at my house to try to make up for it a little bit.

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